Letter to www.pretendbians.com

Good…Let the hate flow through you.  

How dare you use the Labrys, the most holy and sacred Amazon symbol, as window dressing for your vitriol and hatred?   You are certainly no Amazon.   When we are faced with oppression, we confront our enemies face on.   We don’t turn on our own.  We don’t bite our own hands.   Trans-lesbians are nothing more than genetically (and in many cases vaginally) challenged lesbians.    Your diatribe against women born with physical defectives (and they would be the first to admit it) is the moral equivalent of throwing rocks at a cripple and saying,   “Eww. You’re not like me.  Get away .”

The message of this site is explicitly that trans-women are not real women, but you imply further that trans-women are men who pretend to be women in order to have sex with lesbians.  Really?  Do you honestly think that any man would go through horrendous pain, lose their careers and everything they love (let alone giving up their precious penises) just to be able to invade your personal space?

I agree that only women can be lesbians, but you, my dear, are not a real woman.   You might have the right equipment…you might be female… but being a woman has little to do with what body bumps you may or may not have.  I have known trans-women who are much better at being a woman than you.   A real woman doesn’t respond to haters by seeking out a completely different group -- one that never did her any harm -- to hate.  All this talk of excluding this group and that group and that  whole “them-and-us” mentality…that’s the way men talk.   Women are not about exclusion. 

You rail against those that call you a bully yet you feel that trans-women and trans-lesbians are beneath you.  Can’t you see that attacking and ostracizing your inferiors makes you a bully…by definition?

I am a Zon and I am proud of that.   We don’t need bullies trying to represent us or co-opting our faith in the Goddess to spread bigotry.  

 

If you don’t want to have sex with a trans-woman, then don’t.  Frankly, I don’t want to either.  I don’t dislike them;  they just aren’t in my love map.  But that doesn’t mean I am not going to embrace those less fortunate than me and say, “I am so sorry that life has fucked you over.  Yes, you are my sister.  And I will stand with you against anyone who says you aren’t.”